{"id":7773,"date":"2016-08-20T11:25:08","date_gmt":"2016-08-20T11:25:08","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/meeseeks:5080\/blog\/?p=7773"},"modified":"2022-01-18T10:38:50","modified_gmt":"2022-01-18T10:38:50","slug":"the-need-for-enchantment","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/vukutu.com\/blog\/2016\/08\/the-need-for-enchantment\/","title":{"rendered":"The need for enchantment"},"content":{"rendered":"

I just described<\/a> our contemporary western culture as pseudo-rationalist materialism arising from a Protestant disdain for the supernatural, pagan aspects of Catholicism.   I recalled a 2015 column<\/a> by New York Times<\/em> op-editor David Brooks on the need for enchantment in our lives.  A willingness to accept enchantment is indeed a counter-cultural act.<\/p>\n

The dating sites have taken the information available online and tried to use it to match up specific individuals. They\u2019ve failed. An exhaustive review of the literature by Eli J. Finkel of Northwestern and others concluded, \u201cNo compelling evidence supports matching sites\u2019 claims that mathematical algorithms work.\u201d That\u2019s because what creates a relationship can\u2019t be expressed in data or photographs. Being in love can\u2019t be done by a person in a self-oriented mind-set, asking: Does this choice serve me? Online dating is fascinating because it is more or less the opposite of its object: love.
\nWhen online daters actually meet, an entirely different mind-set has to kick in. If they\u2019re going to be open to a real relationship, they have to stop asking where this person rates in comparison to others and start asking, can we lower the boundaries between self and self. They have to stop thinking in individual terms and start feeling in rapport terms.
\nBasically, they have to take the enchantment leap. This is when something dry and utilitarian erupts into something passionate, inescapable and devotional. Sometimes a student becomes enraptured by the beauty of math, and becomes a mathematician. Soldiers doing the drudgery of boot camp are gradually bonded into a passionate unit, for which they will risk their lives. Anybody who has started a mere job and found in it a vocation has taken the enchantment leap.
\nIn love, of course, the shift starts with vulnerability, not calculation. The people involved move from selfishness to service, from prudent thinking to poetic thinking, from a state of selection to a state of need, from relying on conscious thinking to relying on their own brilliant emotions.
\nWhen you look at all the people looking for love and vocation today, you realize we live in a culture and an online world that encourages a very different mind-set; in a technical culture in which humanism, religion and the humanities, which are the great instructors of enchantment, are not automatically central to life.
\nI have to guess some cultures are more fertile for enchantment \u2014 that some activities, like novel-reading or music-making, cultivate a skill for it, and that building a capacity for enchantment is, these days, a countercultural act and a practical and fervent need.”<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

 
\nReference:<\/strong><\/em>
\nDavid Brooks [2015]:  The devotion leap.  New York Times International Edition<\/em>, 24-25 January 2015, page 9.
\nThe  image is “The Spirit of the Plains”<\/em> (1897) by Sydney Long (1871-1955), now in the Queensland Art Gallery, Brisbane.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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